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Published on February 20, 2007 By lifehappens In Blogging
My son is very picky. He likes his sandwiches one way and ONLY one way. To suggest a variation of the norm is met with harsh criticism.

"Moooooooomm!"

(Insert heavy sigh and eye roll)

"I don't LIKE jelly. I just want my sandwich on bread, one piece, peanut butter, NO jelly, folded in half....*breath* like a rectangle NOT a triangle....okaaay?!"

The "I don't LIKE *insert food here*" line is getting annoying. Especially since he decides the value of a food BEFORE he tries it.

So I point out that he has not had jelly on a sandwich in 3 years. MAYBE he does like it.

He insists he doesn't and that tasting is unnecessary.

I accidentally make only one one piece, peanut butter, no jelly, folded in half, not a triangle sandwich. The rest have jelly.

He is really hungry.

I refuse to make more till the ones I made are gone.

He sits.

His sister giggles.

He sits.

I answer the phone.....and when I return one is missing.

He looks guilty.

I ask how it tasted and he admits it is fine.

Now he asks for a "One piece, peanut butter, NO jelly (even though I like it) sandwich, folded in half like a rectangle, not a triangle."

I think I won, but I'm not sure.




Comments
on Feb 20, 2007
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on Feb 21, 2007
Oh, I can't wait for mine to grow up and be like that... eek.
on Feb 21, 2007
Oh, I can't wait for mine to grow up and be like that... eek.


But mind games are fun and keep you on your toes
on Feb 21, 2007
Oh, I can't wait for mine to grow up and be like that... eek.


But mind games are fun and keep you on your toes
on Feb 21, 2007
Just because he realizes he likes one thing doesn't mean he doesn't prefer something else.

Also: getting you to prepare his food in a particular way can be reassuring to him. First off, it's familiar, it's comfortable, it's the same... unlike some of the other stuff in his life. Secondly, he is able to exert a modicum of control over his environment (unfortunately that's you in this case) which empowers him and in turn reassures him.

Or he's just really really stubborn. I've got a mix of all of that in my two.
on Feb 21, 2007
Also: getting you to prepare his food in a particular way can be reassuring to him.....which empowers him and in turn reassures him.


Okay, now make me feel bad.

And BTW It's not having PB every day that drives me crazy....it's having him tell me "I dont' like that" when I KNOW that he either never touched it or he loved it last time I made it.
on Feb 22, 2007
it's having him tell me "I dont' like that" when I KNOW that he either never touched it or he loved it last time I made it.


boy, don't i know it!

i think my kids only have one appetite between them, if one kid eats the others don't feel the need to. good thing they take turns on who's eating!
on Feb 22, 2007
Okay, now make me feel bad.


I apologize. That wasn't my intent.

And I know people (humans) well enough to know that even acknowledging the possibility of this sort of psychological reasoning behind his actions isn't going to make it stop bugging you. Believe me, I know that it can be hard to get away from the "I win" mentality over battling with the kids...

FWIW, I think you're a fantastic, energetic and caring mother and wife. Please don't take my observations as being overly critical.